頭腦清理的注意事項
其中總是要做的事情 始終與客戶的協定
合作 在最初的面試中，檢查客戶是否在那裡是至關重要的，因為這是他們想要的，而不是因為他們正在做別人想讓他們做的事情。一旦明確了這一點，那麼Clearer和客戶必須在會話中一起工作。當你一起工作時，很容易感覺到一個人是否和你在一起。他們不和你在一起的跡象是，他們可能抗拒做建議的事情，或者偏離軌道或變得挑剔。如果客戶不與您合作，這可能是出於多種原因。可能是你沒有在他們感興趣的領域工作，或者工作對他們來說可能太難或太容易了。可能是已經出現的移情，也可能是感知到的或實際的不理解。無論出於何種原因，Clearer都需要找出客戶停止與他們合作的原因。找出來會提高溝通水準。
始終從客戶端獲取有關客戶端的資訊 不要決定用戶端
出了什麼問題，並從中著手。盡可能將其他人關於客戶的資訊放在一邊。忽略某人的重要事實是愚蠢的，但清除者可以詢問這些事情。信息必須主要來自用戶端。
始終保持清晰的溝通週期 清除溝通週期1 是有效的，也是人們發展溝通能力的方式。作為更好地將自己傳達給另一個人的直接結果，思想
會消失，因為它不再需要。如果不維持週期，會議將無效，該人將不滿意地離開。清澈者也會不滿意。
始終照顧物理環境
會議的唯一目的是幫助該人更好地展示自己。任何明顯分散注意力的東西都應該被排除在等式之外。Clearer有責任確保物理環境為會議目的而工作。環境不應該讓人分心。
始終與個人合作，忽略頭腦的反應性 忽略頭腦
的任何反應性，只與個人聯繫。反應是頭腦。這可能很困難，特別是如果客戶表現得很大或不斷進行社交接觸，但這必須被忽略。真正的見解永遠不應該被忽視，但分心應該是。
始終將注意力集中在用戶端
上 如果 Clearer 的注意力徘徊，那麼與客戶的親和力就會降低。可能會錯過一些東西，客戶會感到不那麼被理解。
永遠是你說
的 清晰者必須做出e 他們在會話中說的任何話對他們來說都是真實的。他們需要保持會議的真實性，所以他們所說的一切都必須來自他們，他們必須是認真的。如果 Clearer 不是他們所說的意思，那麼會議就會變成生活中許多對話的樣子：假的。這個人將認知它，他們將看到這與餘生沒有什麼不同，他們將對更清晰或過程沒有信心。
清除者不會也不應該透露有關他們自己的資訊，除非在極少數情況下;知道什麼時候這樣做只有通過經驗才能真正學到。但他們應該誠實地回答問題，並言出必行。
即使客戶問一些直面問題，比如“你覺得我有吸引力嗎？”Clearer也必須誠實。也許他們確實覺得客戶很有吸引力，在這種情況下，他們應該這麼說，然後繼續會議。
承認錯誤並繼續 錯誤發生並且必須承認，然後會話繼續
。試圖掩蓋錯誤是錯誤的，無論如何，客戶可能已經注意到了。不要大驚小怪或過度;只要說出發生了什麼，這是一個錯誤，然後繼續前進。
在頭腦清理中永遠不要做的事情 不要診斷客戶並在診斷
中得到修復 診斷一個人並嘗試解決如何解決它們是很誘人的，但這在頭腦清理
中絕不能做到。Clearer可能會不禁注意到客戶被趕上的方式。這是一種診斷形式，對優秀的清除者來說是可以預期的;瞭解與該人一起使用哪些工具可能很重要。但是，一旦這成為一種診斷，它就變成了一種疏遠策略，而 Clearer 不再真正對那個人的真實情況持開放態度。他們觀察到的可能是正確的，但他們不再真正吸引人。在這方面，它們實際上是不正確的。當時從客戶那裡獲取資訊並幫助他們完成工作要有效得多。
這個人可能到處都是，但除非他們得到説明來整理他們實際呈現的內容，以便他們更好地展示並更清楚地瞭解自己的事情，否則坐下來說話對他們沒有説明。客戶必須更好地做出自己的判斷和決定。為他們做這件事無濟於事。説明不是通過修復人來實現的。
實際説明可能是這樣的。如果一個人手臂骨折去看醫生，醫生可以修復它，那麼這就是從醫生那裡得到的説明。心靈清除不是在處理這種説明。對心靈的幫助在於幫助人們更好地向內看
，看到正在發生的事情並傳達它。當一個人開始提高他們向內看的技能時，從技術上講，真正發生的事情與向內看相反。這個人實際上是從他們的中心向外看。他們從自己身上看他們的思想、思想、身體、情緒、其他人。它加強了個人，人們更清楚地知道他們是誰和在哪裡.要做到這一點，幫助這個人發展他們的判斷力並與之合作是至關重要的。
永遠不要試圖秘密地
教學 如果Clearer認為客戶會從知道他們似乎不知道的事情中受益，那麼具體的教學是可以的。但是，這絕不應該通過會話的技術來隱含地嘗試。這是暗中試圖傳達一些東西。它不是誠實地與客戶打交道。這是一種扭曲的溝通形式。
不要和客戶
玩遊戲 與客戶玩遊戲類似於秘密教學。Clearer永遠不應該試圖讓客戶通過問題或任何其他方式來讓他們看到他們認為重要的東西，從而提出“正確”的答案。這是操縱。這是間接溝通，不應該這樣做。
永遠不要評估或使您的客戶
無效 決定客戶的問題是一種評估和無效。它可以追溯到始終從客戶端獲取資訊。與個人合作至關重要，而不是與他們的想法一起工作。
在會議期間永遠不要引起對自己的注意 會議是為了客戶和關於客戶，而不是更清晰。應盡可能避免在會話中引起對自己的注意。Clearer有很多方法可以在會話中引起人們的注意。例如，提及與客戶正在談論的情況類似的情況可能很誘人。它可以是友好的，有時可能會有所説明，但實際上
它是更清晰的人，引起了人們的注意。其他方式是四處走動，坐立不安，打哈欠，環顧四周，甚至某些形式的衣服。
切勿在存在已知隱瞞
的情況下繼續會話 如果有人表示他們沒有說或不會說的話，則在客戶傳達之前，Clearer 不得繼續會話。他們想傳達它，否則他們不會提到它，所以清除者應該通過道德和善良的手段從他們那裡得到它，然後繼續。
永遠不要發表評論或提供建議 發表評論或提供建議
屬於評估、無效和引起人們對自己的注意。清除者的評論可能是正確的，他們的建議可能是好的，但絕不能這樣做。必須關注客戶;更清晰者必須與他們合作，發展和表達他們自己的判斷，並傳達它們。如果很明顯教他們一些東西可能對他們有益，那麼應該明確介紹這一點，並且應該簡短。
DOS AND DON’TS OF MIND CLEARING
Things always to do in Mind Clearing
Always work with the client’s agreement
In the initial interview it is vital to check that the client is there because this is what they want, rather than because they are doing what someone else wants them to do. Once this is clear, then it is essential that Clearer and client can work together in sessions. It is easy to have a sense of whether a person is with you as you work together. Signs that they are not with you are that they may be resistant to doing what is suggested, or go off track or become critical. If the client is not working with you, this could be for a number of reasons. It might be that you are not working in the area in which they are interested, or the work might be too hard or too easy for them. It could be transference that has come up, or a perceived or actual non-understanding. Whatever the reason, it is up to the Clearer to find out why the client has stopped working with them. Finding it out will raise the level of communication.
Always get the information about the client from the client
Do not decide what is wrong with the client and work from that. Put aside information from other people about the client as far as possible. It would be foolish to ignore important facts about someone, but the Clearer can ask about these things. The information must come primarily from the client.
Always maintain the clearing communication cycle The clearing communication cycle1 is what works and is how people develop in their ability to communicate. As a direct result of getting better at getting themselves across to another individual, the mind
drops away as it is no longer needed. If cycles are not maintained, the session will not be effective and the person will go away dissatisfied. The Clearer will also be dissatisfied.
Always take care of the physical environment
The only point of a session is to help the person get better at presenting themselves. Anything that significantly distracts from this should be taken out of the equation. The Clearer has the responsibility to make sure the physical environment works for the purpose of giving sessions. The environment should not be a distraction.
Always co-operate with the individual and ignore the reactivity of the mind
Ignore any reactivity of the mind and relate only with the individual. The reactivity is the mind. This can be difficult, especially if the client is acting out in a big way or continually angles for social contact, but this must be ignored. Genuine insights should never be ignored, but distractions should be.
Always keep your attention on the client
If the attention of the Clearer wanders, then the affinity with the client is reduced. Something might be missed and the client will feel less understood.
Always mean what you say
The Clearer must make sure that anything they say in a session is true for them. They need to keep the session real, so everything they say must come from them and they must mean it. If the Clearer does not mean what they say, the session will become what so many conversations in life are: fake. The person will know it and they will see that this is no different from the rest of life, and they will have no faith in the Clearer or the process.
The Clearer does not, and should not, reveal information about themselves except on rare occasions; knowing when to do so is something that can only really be learned through experience. But they should give honest answers to questions and mean what they say.
Even if a client asks something confronting such as, ‘Do you find me attractive?’ the Clearer must be honest. Maybe they do find the client attractive, in which case they should say so and then continue with the session.
Admit mistakes and go on
Mistakes happen and must be acknowledged, and then the session continues. It is a mistake to try to cover up mistakes, and the client probably noticed anyway. Do not make a fuss or overdo it; just say what happened and that it was a mistake, and move on.
Things never to do in Mind Clearing
Do not diagnose the client and get fixed in that diagnosis
It is tempting to diagnose a person and to go in and try to work out how to fix them, but this is something that must never be done in Mind Clearing. It is likely the Clearer cannot help but notice ways in which the client is caught up. This is a form of diagnosis and to be expected of good Clearers; it can be important for knowing what tools to use with that person. But as soon as this becomes fixed as a diagnosis it becomes a distancing strategy and the Clearer is no longer really open to what is true for that person. They might be correct in what they observe, but they are no longer really engaging. In this respect they are in fact incorrect. It is far more effective to get information from the client at the time and help them do the work.
The person might be all over the place, but unless they are helped to sort through what they are actually presenting so they present better and get clearer on things for themselves, then sitting and talking will not help them. The client has to get better at making their own judgements and decisions. It will not help for it to be done for them. The help does not happen by fixing people.
Practical help might be like that. If a person goes to a doctor with a broken arm and the doctor can fix it, then that is the help to be got from the doctor. Mind Clearing is not dealing in that kind of help. Help with the mind consists in assisting the person in getting better at looking
inside, seeing what is going on and communicating it. When a person starts improving their skill at looking inside, what is really going on is technically the opposite of looking inward. The person is actually looking outwards from their centre. They are looking out at their mind, thoughts, body, emotions, at other people, from themselves. It strengthens the individual and people become clearer about who and where they are. To do that, it is vital to help the person develop their judgement and work with that.
Never try to teach covertly
If the Clearer thinks the client would benefit from knowing something they seem ignorant of, then specific teaching is OK. But this should never be attempted implicitly, through the techniques of the session. This is covertly trying to get something across. It is not dealing honestly with the client. It is a form of distorted communication.
Do not play games with a client
Playing games with a client is similar to teaching covertly. The Clearer should never try to set the client up to come up with the ‘right’ answer through questions or any other way of trying to get them to see something they think is important. This is manipulation. It is indirect communication and should not be done.
Never evaluate or invalidate your client
Deciding what is wrong with clients is an evaluation and an invalidation. It goes back to always getting the information from the client. It is vital to work with the individual, not work with ideas about them.
Never call attention to yourself during the session The session is for and about the client, not the Clearer. The Clearer drawing attention to themselves in the session should be avoided as far as possible. There are so many ways the Clearer can draw attention to themselves in the session. For instance, it may be tempting to mention a situation similar to that about which the client is talking. It can be friendly and may possibly be helpful sometimes, but it is in fact the
Clearer drawing attention to themselves. Other ways are moving about, fidgeting, yawning, looking around, even some forms of dress.
Never go on with a session in the presence of a known withhold
If someone indicates there is something they have not said or will not say, the Clearer must not go on with the session until the client has communicated it. They want to communicate it or they would not have mentioned it, so the Clearer should get it out of them through ethical and kind means, and then continue.
Never make comments or give advice
Making comments or giving advice come under evaluating, invalidating and drawing attention to yourself. The Clearer’s comments might be correct and their advice might be good, but this must not be done. Attention must be kept on the client; the Clearer must work with them at developing and expressing their own judgements and communicating them. If it is clear that teaching them something may benefit them, then this should be introduced explicitly and should be brief.
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